Are You Sabotaging Your Own Success?
Have you ever been really clear on what you want to do or achieve, and yet you find a million reasons not to take the actions that would help you achieve it?
Why do we procrastinate? Why do we self-sabotage? Why do we not do the things we need to do to create exactly what we want? The answer is simple: We have to examine and change our mindsets and behaviors.
Mindsets are beliefs or thoughts - which include that sometimes irritating voice in our head that tells us stories that are often not true. They might be conscious thoughts like - I don’t have time or I’ve tried this before and it didn’t work, so why bother? Or they might be thoughts and beliefs you need to dig a little deeper to uncover like - I don’t deserve to achieve this or I’m not worthy. These are limiting beliefs - they make us believe that what we want is not attainable and that is NOT true!
It’s important to be conscious and aware of any limiting beliefs that show up so you can get rid of them. One way to eliminate limiting beliefs is to come up with a solution that will totally debunk those negative thoughts and beliefs.
For example, if one of your limiting beliefs is I don’t have enough time, a possible solution is you block out the time by scheduling it right into your daily calendar. And, if there really isn’t any time in your daily calendar, then you get up an hour earlier to get it done or stay up an hour later at night. You must make it a priority.
When I look at my day with a critical eye, I KNOW there are several times during the day when I am not managing my time effectively. Imagine how you would feel if you achieved what you want. Use that feeling to motivate you to put it at the top of your to-do list and then DO IT.
In addition to limiting beliefs (mindsets) that prevent you from taking action on your goal, another area that may be preventing you from taking action is your behaviors or habits. What really is taking up your time? What is stealing your focus from the important things you want to accomplish? Are you internet surfing or shopping when you could be working on your goal? Are you distracted by apps, games, or social media?
Go through your day and analyze your time. Where can you change some behaviors/habits to provide more time to follow through on the necessary actions to reach your goal? If you find you are easily distracted and go on to social media when you are stressed, make it a rule to not go on to that site. Close those tabs. Set a timer to focus on the specific actions that are going to move you toward your goal and don’t let anything distract you.
Creating new healthy behaviors, routines and habits is key to the achievement of your goals!