When we’re faced with big decisions that might push us out of our comfort zones, we often start feeling like we’re not up to the task. Have you ever heard that little voice in your head, repeatedly casting doubt on your skills and achievements?
That’s known as imposter syndrome, when we feel like we’ve tricked people into thinking we’re good enough at what we’re doing. We start to doubt ourselves and may even begin self-sabotaging.
If that sounds familiar, let’s take a look at some ways to stop imposter syndrome once and for all.
Get Factual
Imposter syndrome preys on your insecurities and doubts. You can fight it by confronting it with cold hard facts. Recognize that just because you think these things doesn’t mean they are true.
For example, if your brain is telling you that you can’t possibly make a speech to a hundred people, remind yourself that you wouldn’t have got to this point without showing skill and knowledge in your chosen field. You have the experience to get this far - now drive it home!
Champion Yourself
To help remind yourself of these facts quickly, keep a running list of all your proudest achievements. This can be anything from saving positive emails from your boss, recognizing your excellent work, or displaying a picture your child drew, telling you what a great parent you are. Save those little moments that show just how much you’ve accomplished for the next time that imposter syndrome rears its head.
Stop Comparing
Comparison is a toxic part of today’s society. Social media makes it all too easy to compare our lives with the (often idealized) versions of others’ lives - whether this is with strangers, acquaintances, co-workers, or loved ones. However, comparison usually ends up with everyone feeling inadequate. Break out of this cycle by focusing on your own achievements instead of others successes.
Flip the Message
Did you know that imposter syndrome is most common among smart, high-achieving people? That means that experiencing and recognizing imposter syndrome sets you up to be a high achiever. Remind yourself of that next time you start thinking negatively about yourself!
Open Up
Sometimes, you need an outside opinion to help you recognise your own skills and qualities. Find someone you trust, whether that’s a friend, colleague, or therapist, and talk about how you’re feeling.
Chances are, they will be able to help you rationalize your feelings and reduce the influence of that pesky imposter syndrome.
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