Whether we like it or not, setbacks are going to happen. They’re just a part of life! But it’s important to remember that setbacks don’t define us. They don’t shape our future and they don’t need to define who we are.
What is important, however, is how we move forward from setbacks. Even though setbacks are a part of life, we don’t have to sit and dwell on feelings of failure and remorse. Here are some of my favorite strategies for bouncing back and moving forward.
Let Yourself Feel the Feelings
Yes. I said it. It’s okay to allow yourself to sit and feel the feeling of your setback for a while. Especially if it’s something big, like a divorce, being laid off at work, or your business not working, you need to validate those feelings. Before you start to rediscover your purpose, allow yourself to mourn your loss.
Reframe Your Mindset
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: Cultivating a growth mindset is incredibly important, especially during times of setbacks. If you convince yourself that this situation defines you then it will, but if you convince yourself that it’s just a learning experience and something to build off of, then you will be able to grow from it.
Build a Support System
Whether it’s your family, your friends, or a strong network of business partners, a solid support system is very valuable and will help you find joy in your journey. Lean on this system and don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it! Schedule some one-on-one time with a close friend, mentor, or family member to help you move through your setback and develop a plan to move forward.
Keep Your Situation in Perspective
Some setbacks, such as losing a customer or being in a fender bender, won’t always feel as big as they do at the moment. Try not to get wrapped up in the emotions of the situation and keep the big picture in mind. Even bigger setbacks, such as a divorce or a layoff, often lead to better journeys.
Take Action and Move Forward
Sometimes, part of building resilience is forcing yourself to get up, take action, and move forward.
If applying for new jobs feels like too big of an ask the day after a layoff, don’t do it! But also don’t allow yourself to lay in bed all day. Get up, get dressed, go for a walk, call a friend… whatever you need to do to focus on your next step. Before you know it, you’ll be starting your next journey and your setback will start to feel like it’s finally in the past.