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  • Writer's pictureMichele Andorfer

Are You Sabotaging Your Own Success?

Do you have a dream that you’ve always wanted to achieve? Do you find that you are super excited about your dream, but as time passes, you find yourself spending less and less time focusing on doing the things that would make your dream a reality?

Unfortunately, this is more common than you might realize. Self-sabotage is a real thing and it can manifest in our lives in a number of different ways. It takes time to uncover and examine the habits and fears that are preventing our success, but by doing so we can overcome them and move forward to create something extraordinary.

Below are some of the most common ways self-sabotage can manifest in our lives:

  • Procrastination - This is a big one! We put things off and delay taking action - even when we know it's important and that by taking action we can achieve what we’ve always wanted. (Read more)

  • Avoiding the Uncomfortable: Nobody likes to feel uncomfortable. But success is outside our comfort zone. By shying away from things that make us feel uncomfortable, we ultimately hinder both personal growth and the achievement of our dreams. (Read more)

  • Unsupportive Habits: Do your daily habits and routines support the achievement of your dream? How can you achieve your dream when daily you are not doing the things that need to be done to achieve it? (Read more)

  • Blaming Others or Circumstances: I hear this ALL THE TIME! Instead of taking responsibility, we often point fingers at external factors for our lack of progress.

  • Making Excuses: We find more reasons as to why we can't do something, rather than finding ways to make it happen.

  • External Opinions: We allow other people's opinions to sway our decisions, even when they don't truly align with our goals.

  • Reliving Past Failures: Dwelling on past failures can lead to self-doubt and hinder future progress. There is a reason why the windshield in the car is bigger than the rearview mirror. You need to look forward. Don’t let past mistakes slow you down. (Read more)

  • Age and Timing: The belief that we're too old or that it's too late to pursue our dreams can be a significant roadblock. (Read more)

  • Fear of Embarrassment: We fear looking foolish or incompetent in front of others, which can prevent us from taking action.

  • Social Anxiety: For introverts or those with social anxiety, reaching out to others may seem daunting and hinder progress.

So, how do we break the habits of self-sabotage? It doesn’t happen overnight, but awareness is the first step. By recognizing that we are the reason our dream hasn’t come to pass, we can start taking consistent steps to eliminate self-sabotaging behaviors.

How to Overcome Self-Sabotage

One tool that has been helpful to me in breaking free from some of the self-sabotaging behaviors has been the power of the “what if? ”mindset.

What if we could create something that not only benefits ourselves but also has a profound impact on others? What if, through our efforts, we become remarkably successful in ways we can't even fathom at this moment? And what if we don't achieve the exact outcome we initially hoped for, but we end up on a transformative journey that leads to personal growth, lasting connections, and new opportunities?

Self-sabotage is a common obstacle on the road to success. However, recognizing these self-destructive behaviors is the first step towards overcoming them.

By acknowledging our fears, worries, and habits that hinder our progress, we can work towards personal growth and success. Remember, the journey towards your goals can be just as important as the destination. Who knows what remarkable outcomes and opportunities await those who conquer their self-sabotaging tendencies?

Embrace the "what if" and take a step closer to your dreams today!



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